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# #IAmNotOk: Stars Speak Out About Surviving Domestic Violence
- URL: https://celebritykind.ghost.io/iamnotok-2/
- Published: 2019-03-13T02:27:48.000Z
- Updated: 2026-09-30T04:13:29.000Z
- Author: Nehal Dalgliesh
- Tags: Women and Girls, Domestic Violence, Esme Bianco, Evan Rachel Wood, #IAmNotOk, #Migrated-1790726633553, #wp, #wp-post, #Import 2026-09-30 00:04

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Have you come across the hashtag **#IAmNotOk?** Please know that it deals with horrific stories of domestic violence, self-harm and suicide. If you or anyone you know may need help, please contact [**Lifeline**](https://www.lifeline.org.au/?ref=celebritykind.ghost.io) in Australia, or a support [helpline in your country](http://www.worldhelplines.org/?ref=celebritykind.ghost.io). Violence and sexual assault is not acceptable. It is *not your fault*. There is help out there. And if you are the perpetrator, *you can change* your behaviour by seeking help too. 

*Westworld* actress **Evan Rachel Wood** says she can't *"remember what it feels like not to be scared."*

*Game of Thrones'* **Esmé Bianco** says years after it ended, she still suffers from *"PTSD and anxiety."*

The *it* they speak of is domestic violence. They are both survivors sharing heartbreaking stories of the psychological trauma they *still live with*, years after leaving their violent partners.

**#IAmNotOk** is a movement allowing people to share their experiences so others won't feel alone. So they know that it's ok to *not be ok* and there is help out there. And much like **#MeToo,** it's opening our eyes to just how widespread the issue is.

In a video posted to Insta, **Evan** tearfully explains,*"I'm not ok because no matter how much work I do, I'm still searching for some sort of peace and I'm searching to feel safe....I'm still trying to put all this behind me but I don't know if I'll ever be fully able to do that."*

She also shared images from a Gucci photo shoot in 2010 - photos that you and I would look at and not think twice about. But when **Evan** looks at them, it revives memories of feeling weakened by her abusive partner.

*"I was emaciated, severely depressed and could barely stand."* she writes. "I *fell into a pool of tears and was sent home for the day."*

**Evan** also opens up about how two years into her violent relationship, she felt so desperate to stop the abuse yet too scared to leave, that she resorted to self-harm. I have not reposted the accompanying image on this page as I find it too confronting. However, it's important to realise that self-harm was *not* the solution. Evan explains, *"It only made the abuse stop temporarily."*

Actress **Esmé Bianco** has added her voice to the discussion too. In her Insta post showing a photo of her back with whip marks on them, she says, *"I used to look at this photo with pride because I thought it was a sign of great devotion to my abuser. Now I look at it with horror."*

![(Source: Instagram/@esmebianco](https://storage.ghost.io/c/cf/bb/cfbb8a7e-9a81-48ec-83e6-18e106bf4f7a/content/images/2026/09/a6ee7479-d3ec-43c9-9179-52122b44e0f1-2.jpg)

(Source: Instagram/@esmebianco

**Esmé** is taking medication now to deal with her PTSD and anxiety stemming from the abuse:

Evan and Esmé's stories are sadly not rare. Every day women (and men) are experiencing violence at the hands of an intimate partner. In Australia, it's 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men.

By speaking out, Evan, Esmé and all those sharing their **#IAmNotOk** stories are not only raising awareness about how domestic violence can affect anyone, but also tearing down misconceptions about why people can't *"just leave"*  the relationship. It's letting people know they are not alone and it's giving those same people a network of support.